I was advising a loved one on what to do in a delicate matter when I used the analogy of a journey. You may find it useful, then again you could consider it a complete waste of time ..
Imagine standing at a train station with the intention of embarking on a journey. There are two possibilities: 1. You know where you want to go 2. You have no idea. Now you are surrounded by trains destined for different destinations, all trains are not alike, some are very basic, others luxurious, with amongst other amenities, a state of the art entertainment system. What do you do??
Well if you have given it serious thought, studied all the promotional material for the destinations, and therefore have made an informed decision, your task is easy, you purchase a ticket for the desired destination and get ready for the journey ahead.
On the other hand, the situation is not that simple if you have done no research whatsoever, and have no clue. What do you do? Well, you look around. As is expected today, the best advertisement team is for the most luxurious trains, they have very educated – but greedy and unscrupulous – individuals working for them, these people have sussed you out and have these amazingly glossy, flashy banners all over the place talking about how great their train is and how much fun it is traveling on it (they purposefully, leave out any information about the destination); their banners are adorned with pictures of ecstatic individuals, and it seems they really enjoyed the journey.
Like many others you will try to get on those trains. If you cannot afford it, and have some skills you can work part time on the train and that will cover the expenses of your journey; if you have no skills you will just sit on the platform gawking at those who embark the train and wish you were them.
That is only part of the story there is more to it, what happens when you are on the train. Well, initially, you love it – as I said earlier, the train has all this singing and dancing, amazing stuff that you can purchase while on the train and show off to others, so you are really having a good time. But sometimes you get concerned about where you are going – does not happen often, because there is always some fun stuff going on – you go and speak to some of the other passengers on the train, they tell you, you are just depressed all you need is one of those fancy new toy cars the steward displayed the other day; or at times you just sit back to watch a movie to calm yourself.
A few individuals are able to see through this fanfare and realize that the train is going nowhere; this conclusion can also be the result of a chance meeting with a passenger from a different train, at one of the stops the train makes. These individuals decide to jump ship. At the next possible station they just get off and go out in search of the train that is going somewhere.
So, are you getting off at the next stop???
Please leave comments, if people find this useful, I will write some more on this analogy.